Write a conversation with the “you” of five years ago. Focus on how you’ve changed and grown, but do not give away any details about actual events. (No spoilers!)
Okay, chick, here’s the deal:
Yes, it sucks right now, and you’re going to have to deal with that twat waffle for a while – sorry about that. You’re going to make it through, though. It’s going to be okay. Okay, maybe not okay okay in some ways, but there’s some seriously big stuff heading your way that’ll make up for putting up with her shit. It’ll get a little worse (to be fair, she’s never going to get better), but at least she’ll learn to keep her distance after a while.
You might want to make a note of this next part. You know all those mindfulness exercises you’ve been doing? All the stuff with compassion and empathy and shit? Keep that up, it’s going to make a huge difference. Seriously, you have no idea how big. We’re talking life changing shit here. Big, big deal.
Don’t worry about the first date track record. That’s just more crap you’re leaving behind. And you’re spot on – someone who isn’t pants-on-fire excited to see you isn’t worth the effort, no matter how much you know you have in common. Let that one fall to the side some. And if your pants aren’t on fire to see someone, don’t try to force it. You already know this, but let me remind you: you don’t have to like everyone. In fact, it’s better if you don’t.
Also, before I forget, do not throw out those black cargo pants. They are the bomb.