8: Hold my hand in public. In other words, show me that you’re proud to be seen with me.
7: Play with me. Play video games, word games, absurd games. Youth is nurtured by the right kinds of games. Laugh, make goofy jokes, laugh at my goofy jokes… Don’t be afraid to be silly with me.
6: Be my friend first, but don’t let that get in the way of being my lover, too. That means calling me out when I screw up, but don’t hold it over my head. It means not withholding affection when you’re mad or sad or whatever (because of me or because of something else). Talk to me and trust me to be your friend first, too.
5: Tell me what you really think and feel about me. Am I pretty? Do you think I’m clever? Honest compliments go a long way with me. They’re the other “magic words”, and they are very powerful – especially from the ones that have already earned my love and respect.
4: Treat me the way you want to be treated because that’s the way I’m treating you. That can mean specific things like leaving love notes, or it can mean the general spirit of an action. I’m also assuming that you’re treating me the way you want to be treated, and in the end, we should end up with an affection style that’s a hybrid of the both of us.
3: Apologies are ready important to understand. They are an admission of having made a mistake. They are not admissions of unworthiness or inferiority. Take them well and give them well.
2: Share cool stories from the news, from your friends, from your life. They tell us so much that we couldn’t possibly knee how to share any other way.
1: Food is love, and likewise love is food. Feeding me good food is always a step in the right direction, especially if you’ve made it yourself, but a nice dinner out isn’t bad, either. At the same time, showing and giving me honest love is a food. This is how I show you my love as well, and having a “compatible pallet” to my cooking style is way up there.
This one is always a tough one for me because I think usually that I’m pretty easy to get on with… and then I realized, it’s not just about making me like you, it’s about winning my loyalty and devotion. That’s a bit of a different angle, non?
I tried to write it as though I wasn’t already in a serious relationship and base it solely on the things I’ve learned, especially in the last year. Any similarity to any current activities is purely coincidental.